It has been a week since my wife met me in a grocery store parking lot and told me she wanted a divorce and did not want to talk about the marriage. Since then her anger seems to have cooled down but her mind seems made up still about us ending this and she has completed the divorce paperwork on her end and is having it sent to me.

I didn't think the pain I felt Saturday would ever go away, and I couldn't sleep or eat for the first two days. I am back on the horse now. I decided to keep going to my night classes and also to keep going to our original MC, who has said he wants to work with me to help me find myself and deal with anger.

I feel like this detaching process is moving faster than I expected, but I still go back and forth between missing her and realizing that our relationship was unhealthy and could not go on like it was. We both had anger issues and we were living separate lives in a lot of ways with little communication (but good sex).

She will provide one word replies to my text messages, but does not want to get into a conversation. I figure for the next few weeks while I review the D paperwork and sign it I won't communicate much except for issues related to the D. Once it's over, I will just go NC and wait to see if I ever hear from her. I have no idea if she has someone else lined up (she had an EA that I caught a little over a month ago), or what will happen.

My friends have told me there is 100% chance she will try to get back together with me in the next few months.

All I can do is try to live my life and move on.

T 10 years, M 4 years, both 28 years old
7/3/2013 - W wanted D, we attempted to reconcile
7/20/2013 - discovered W's EA, attempted to reconcile
8/24/2013 - W told me she wanted D, filed papers