Detaching simply means getting to a point where you spouses hurtful words and actions (cause by whatever crisis they are going through personally) don't affect you negatively. They can say something really mean and instead of you getting angry, you understand they are in a crisis mode, so you respond in love or simy know to take a time out and come back to ir later and let them know how if made you feel.
If your husband wants you to initiate start slowly w/ things like touch.....if you have to walk closely past him touch his back or arm in a natural way. Sit next to him on the sofa and lean in to him a little. Simple things like that. And progress from there.
Have you read 5 love languages? Read it...find out what your husbands are and naturally do those things w/o seeming obvious.
Space is a delicate thing to give.....I followed many of the rules of giving space, no calling or texting and I think in my sitch it did more harm than good, i shouldve had more balance instead of the extreme as i was advosed to continue...its too late now. So really evaluate where you are in you relationship and do what best fits your sitch and know when to use the appropriate techniques.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
