Hiya Blue. Sorry you are here but you will find some amazing people wanting to help.
You on on moderation which means your threads wont show up in real time. It will take a couple of days. Keep posting on your own thread (stick to one) and on others' threads. The more you post, the quicker you will be off moderation.
Cadet will be along for a proper welcome and some reading assignments.
Did you read Divorce Remedy? It is important that you do.
No pleading, no begging, no trying to convince her you'll change. Look up Sandi's rules. Read them several times.
The most important things for you to do now is to take care of yourself. Eat, exercise, sleep and pray if you are so inclined.
And you will be hearing a lot about detaching. You need to detach from your wife's actions and words so that they do not influence your actions and words.
All of what your wife has said, most of us have heard. We call it script around here.
She needs to feel heard. That is why you should not call her or text her. If she calls you, be brief and upbeat. Try to end the call first.
Absolutely no relationship talks. That will come much later.
This is a tough ride, but, you will get through it. You will be ok.
So, Blue, get to reading DR. Poke around in other threads. And strap yourself in.
