25yearsmlc You are right. I know what i did in the past. Not a good H, father and a lover. I can't change the past. But I want to be a better man.
****That's the silver lining. Becoming a better man to your children, and for them, is no small thing.
I have moved out for 2 days. It will take many more days to adjust to the new environment.
My family have been very kind and helpful. I wish people would just get to know them personally. There are not monsters like what i have posted them to be. I was horrified when i read my earlier posts. Somehow others may not get the right impression. It seems like they offend W every time they meet. What i wrote are isolated cases and were played out in different times over the course of my relationship with W. Yes, what my family said or did were wrong but it is never their intention to hurt nor punish anyone.
You wrote true events, when your family hurt her AND worse, to most women, is when their husbands do not stand up for them. It feels like betrayal & is seen as either disrespect of the wife, in our culture, and or
Weakness in the husband for not taking a stand. It's part of being a provider. Provide security & support includes emotionally as well, not just financial.
Anyhow, in TIME, your w will recall the other good moments. Good feelings and memories will re-surface if they are there.
I have gone back to visit my kids after work yesterday. It's the first day since i left. To me it's kinda odd. I would expect my wife to treat me like a guest but I have to get things myself and food.
Why on earth would your wife Elevate your role to "guest"? She thinks she is doing you a favor by allowing you in "her" home. Why wouldn't you manage for yourself?
Plus this is supposed to be your FATHERING time to be with your kids. She should not even have to be there. I wish she weren't, frankly.
After that i helped D4 with her school work and spend time reading to my kids. It's really hard to find the right answers to D4's questions about my leaving our home. I really do miss them.
I will still see W if i visit my kids everyday. It feels like nothing have change but it's just that i don't sleep there anymore. How do I start having a conversation with W if she just simply not interested to even talk.
You do NOT bring up the relationship. Have you read the books that are the basis for our approach?
Read Divorce Remedy ASAP, and do Not give it to your wife to read. It's just for you.
GetA Life = "GAL" & we say it often here. Because it works.
What 180's are you doing to contrast her negative views of ou?
What NEW activities are you doing to make yourself feel more alive, more interested & more interesting?
Take a class, JOIN something like a book club or writing group or a team, or volunteer somewhere.
You need a little mystery in your life and you need to start feeling better about yourself...for YOU and to also be more attractive.
Do NOT act as if you can nEver be happy or loving or loved again. You can & you will, hopefully with her.
Please get the Book that is advertised here. Amazon has it online.
Divorce Remedy is really the 2nd edition of Divorce Busting. Either is good, but I like the second one better.
Show her the new, changed you (with action, not words). Become a man only a fool would leave. What were you like when she fell in love with you?
Be confident but not pushy. Make sense?
Good luck, and do get the book!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
