Hi there, well your H seems to be taking the divorce seriously and so should you. I completely understand the fear of financial implications. I think the best thing to do right now, hard as it is, accept that it will happen and be prepared in every way you can for the paperwork. Ask your attorney what you will need to have and get it all ready to go. It is a large effort to find everything and make copies and all that. The further along you are with the paperwork the better position you are in. Focus on the business that will be at hand. You have a lot going on so organize and plan for the paperwork.
Then to allay fear, think of the absolute worst that could happen. What would you do. How would you survive? In my case I went a little nuts. I had no reason to think I would be destitute but prepared anyway. Swear I bought camping equipment and decided I could live on the street or in a camp ground if I had to. This is just an example, make mental plans for absolute worst case. You may see that you are not powerless and getting the paperwork in order will give you a sense of control and order.
How are you feeling? If your H is being mean to you just engage on a business level. No more games, it is what it is. Wonder.
