Lets see where we can improve and make you more attractive to him:
Quote: My mind was going crazy cause it was H's day off. I wanted so BAD to call and grill as to his whereabouts. I thought, hey we're married isn't it my right to know where he is at any given moment?
Ok, theres the needy, worrying, wondering, obssesing Cindy again, which from a male point of view, is less than attractive, something I'd probably run to the hills to get away from. I know you're just thinking that and not saying that to him, but still, its not a winner's mentality. The confident Cindy doesn't worry, knows her H is a big boy and can take care of himself, trusts he uses his discretion when you're apart. You take care of you're wherabouts while you're seperated, he can take care of his. AKA, don't worry, be HAPPY.
Quote: He called last night and I didn't bring it up, didn't ask what he's been doing. AND he volunteered the info all on his own.
There you go, thats the WINNING Cindy in action, no pressuring, no expecting, and look what happens..
Quote: Mentioned he was invited to two Super Bowl parties and wasn't sure which one HE should go to. No invite for me.
Well, he did invite you and the boys over saturday night, don't look a gift horse in the mouth. The WINNING Cindy calls him and in an upbeat manner says.."Hey saturday night sounds great, let me know what time we should stop by. Wow you got invited to two parties?, I just got invited to one. Not sure what I'm going to do either, got a sitter lined up for the kids though just in case...Anyway, talk to you soon, gotta run.." Talk about putting respect back in the R, there you have it. You're not pressuring him to invite you, which your response would have done, even you think it won't..My response makes him wonder a little more what you're up to, rather than wonder how he can hit the party without you.. and probably will cause him to pry a little deeper into what you're doing sunday, because now you've made it clear that you're not really expecting to be with him and you appear to be just fine with it, you've got YOUR OWN PLANS.. He'll probably suggest you come with him..
You just have to know how to play the game Cindy, and it starts by being happy with whatever the way things are, then you see them start to inititiate and pursue you a little more, because they don't feel PRESSURED, they' re more at ease..
