Thanks GALbaby and TTD180. GALbaby, yes it is hard to get jobs back in SE QLD, but I have satisfied there (Ed dept) request of doing 3 years country service before coming back to the same area and position.
On a different note, speaking to my brother last night (very supportive since BD) he mentioned his take on the W is that she has been very evasive over the years. That is she will not come out and say things that are affecting her as much as she should/could. He believes her not talking to me/texting/ringing or seeing me is the same evasive attitude.
Don't know where to go with that, it was just his input. Again it doesn't change anything about my way of thinking.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Talking to your family about the sitch or your W is bound to bring up negative comments like that. Did you find her evasive? She may have been evasive with your brother, did they get on? I'm sending my mum and dad a letter about my sitch and I've told them I don't to talk about my H with them as they will only be negative about the whole thing! Been there, done that, got the t-shirt Last time my H left me, my sister said that she and her friends always thought he was a gold digger! Stupid woman!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
TTD180, my brother is a very positive and caring person who doesn't take sides. He has been as supportive as this forum has been, and in the same way, telling me what I have done right or wrong. He certainly isn't taking sides at all. Mostly he listens and validates. Because my brother lived so far away and phone calls were few and far betweeen, the W was friendly with him and they got on. My brother and I have talked over the phone usually 2 times a week about the sitch, as I said without him and this forum, I don't know where I would have been. He has been a huge support, simple as that. He has never said a nasty word about the W, nor ever blamed her. I don't know that I felt my W was evasive, but if I look at the past now with more open eyes, then maybe I could say she never continued talking about any sitch that occurred apart from the initial complaint she made at the time. ie: I didn't like how you talked to me today. No follow up after apologising. Again maybe just simply my take now. It never was an issue (evasive) while together. It is just another little comment that was made to me that I didn't see or think about before. It still won't change anything. It just seems to make sense with what she is doing/acting like now.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
I'm pleased that you get on well with your bro and he's been supportive in all this and he's not taken sides :)I don't really have that support from my family, I wish I did at times!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Flying to the city in about 2 hours. Going to a double 50th birthday celebration of some friends from my motorbike club. Focus will be on PMA while staying with them and during the party. One of my sons will be spending some time with me on Father's Day, tomorrow. The other son has gone to visit his girlfriend for the weekend, a few hours drive away. Will be back in the country tomorrow night, only a quick trip.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Have a great time HWA Glad that you've got one of your sons for Father's day, that's great news!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Yes it is great news TTD180, even better he initiated the request to meet up. Baby steps.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Last time my H left me, my sister said that she and her friends always thought he was a gold digger! Stupid woman!