I wouldn't want say that your boundary is screwing up the smoothness of your pavement.

Your wife needs to work through her stuff. It's not your place to protect or fix her.. but you can't enable her either.

She will need to make a decision. You getting out of the way so she can make it.. is the loving thing to do.

Stay strong.

M(f): 40
D'ed: 8/12

Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.

Love at all costs because you are loved well.