We are not fully out of the woods yet, I know, but we are miles away from where we were a few months ago. Now, the biggest question is how to sustain our improvements and continue to build on them. Some of the improvements have been from a lower stress load. After all, we have taken a few vacations, no getting the kids up and ready for school and a summer-nanny to help, and great weather. What happens when we have endless winter, sick kids, school hassles, and I have to travel more for work? I don't know, but we are still going to counseling for a while, just going forward it will be monthly rather than weekly.
The other big issue is physical. She is happy going back to before, which is to say a SSM. She knows that isn't acceptable and has talked about it at MC, but is honest that once a month or so is fine with her. I have the attitude that I am not content anymore with mediocrity, that if we are going to go through this experience with MC, it is a chance to build a stronger, mutually-happy marriage that will strengthen us for the long-haul. But, I also know I need to be patient and considering the ground we have covered already, we will get there eventually, rushing it won't help.
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
