You know, I think I was just not getting how my behavior was pressuring. I honestly thought I was NOT pressuring him.
But my MC pointed out that my way of talking or verbalizing to him my wants was pressuring him. Not that I had a lot of wants verbalized but just by merely asking him to go out somewhere was pressure or saying ILY made him feel he needed to respond in some way.
Since the MC is encouraging me to set boundaries, we are hoping that this will pressure h in a good way to take responsibility for how the r goes.
I'm hoping this type of pressure will be good not send h running away.
But then if it does send him running, then he can't respect my boundaries and needs to go.
