Wife just filed for divorce...furious and hates me

[MagicJack]

So last night I was talking to another friend of mine who told me that a few weeks ago my W approached him looking for sympathy and claiming that she didn't cheat on me and saying how I had told her I wanted her to take a polygraph, etc (I told her I wanted her to take a polygraph after first finding out about Ea to see if it had gone physical but after a week dropped it since I realized it sounded crazy). My W had actually complained to me a few weeks ago that this same friend had refused to talk to her and gave her the cold shoulder.

I also went to our old MC last night who told me that his opinion of my W from meeting with us together was she was making a very rash decision, and she tended to minimize her problems and avoid blame, and for someone her age her parents played too big of a role in her decisions. He said she didn't seem emotionally mature.

I texted my W this morning telling her that I found out she and my friend had talked, and that she had tried to turn him against me and also lied to me about him ignoring me. I also texted her saying I thought she was good at actually doing things but didn't really consider what it was she was doing and didn't really know who she was as a person.

We then started arguing via text with her telling me she thought I threatened/ignored/controlled her in our relationship. She also said I never liked her family, and I pointed out when we started dating all she would do was complain about how they were abusive to her, etc. I told her she had problems she was running away from. She then said how I made her feel worthless, and said that my previous comments about me dealing with my anger/criticism issues were lies. I told her I didn't appreciate being screamed at and ambushed with a divorce.

I told her I was working on myself and my problems, and said if she was going to work on her own problems it was on her.

She said that she was working on her problems by A. Moving out; and B. Taking anti-depressant/anxiety meds and figuring out her depression "without being influenced" by others.

I don't know. I felt like this was like our relationship and we would disagree and I would get annoyed with her and come across harsh on issues. The counselor said I could work on managing my anger and coming across in a nicer way when I talk. I don't even see myself doing it most of the time when I am in the moment.

I don't know. The D paperwork on her end is done and being sent to me.