AS- When H comes to house after school to see boys I am not here. In fact I have barely seen H all week. Works for me. Works for boys, and H gets to see them too. Maybe it is cake-eating, but it works for now.
Gotcha, that makes more sense. I thought you meant he was free to come and go as he pleases when you are there.
Originally Posted By: littleGTO
She said make sure to "stick to your boundaries," which I told her was NO SEX with cute guy.
You know how around here we're always talking about how there's not much difference between an EA and a PA? And how in fact an EA can be even more troublesome because it feeds a fantasy that a PA cannot? A lot of WAS's will actively participate in an affair while telling themselves it's not really an affair because they're not having intercourse, like it's a switch that flips things from "friend" to "affair partner". As I've said before I'm not telling you what to do or not do, my personal opinion is that people in our sitches are not married anymore except on paper and what we do regarding new relationships is our decision to make. And if we choose to participate in a new R (again, my opinion here) we are not breaking any sacred vow that hasn't already been shattered, pooped on and dumped at the curb by the WAS. I'm just saying that you can refrain from sex with this guy but still end up neck-deep in a relationship, maybe without even realizing it.
