You can do this. You can say goodbye with dignity. This is HIS time, time that you are giving him to figure out what a "fantasy" is. This is HIS time to be on his own without you and see how he likes it and it is HIS time to feel your absence.
If you smother him, you may think you are acting like a "loving wife" but in reality, too much will send him bounding on that plane thankful to be free. He has been doing nice things for you lately but the reason could be because he will miss you or the reason could be that he is just feeling bloody guilty the closer his trip comes.
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how the heck could he fault ya for caring?...
he does know you- i'd think he'd probably call on his own. it would be interesting to see if he does of his own volition.
YOU COULD TEST HIM- see if he lets you know on his own(that would be very nice to know) and if he doesn't- just leave a text or call and quickly ask/check. who would fault ya for that??
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Oh Wonka and uR, I can see the logic in not telling him to have a great time, but can't I even ask him to let me know that he has arrived safely? Well I guess he should know I'll be worried, and he should notify me all on his own, plus he should be asking me how my surgery goes. Okay, I'll stick to the hug and stay safe. But it's not me.
Nero, Linda, just remember the basic tenant of DBing is that it feels counterintuitive. The challenge is that they do fault us for caring.
Linda, my grams passed away at age 91. I miss her every day. Her words - piss on it! - have made me smile through my darkest hours. She lived life as it came to her and as one of six children growing up without a father in the depths of the depression, she knew what struggles were.
Say goodbye to your H with the strength that he does not have. Who knows, he might surprise you and hug you! I honestly hope for your sake that he lasts the month in Russia, but would not be at all surprised to hear that he returned early. It would be delicious if he returned while you were still away.
