I'm more journaling our story and interactions than my personal goals or achievements so maybe I should be more broad in the approach. Believe me, I knew there had to be significant changes in how I approached situations, handled arguments, and I've been working very hard on those. I would not have a chance if I was only working on "saving the marriage".
And I couldn't agree more on texting - that text exchange is about the longest I will allow, then I just stop texting and call. If W won't answer, I end the conversation.
However, soon I'll need to file a legal response if she won't do the dissolution, but she says I'll just lie about her in court. (Says the woman lying about our relationship, her EA, etc) I told her I don't lie, and she said, "You lied about ever loving me." So I quit texting, and I actually just left a VM with her stating I was confused as to what direction to take, and I'm just leaving it alone.
Sheesh! You can't win if you fight for your marriage, and when you stop and give them what you want, they start actually having a conversation.
I know the last couple of posts have not been very good DB, but I sort of hit that wall where I was done. I know I've only been DBing for 6 weeks, but our mutual friends even say she's crazy - and some of them liked her better than me! So the true efforts have been going on for months - bettering myself, being kind to her, etc. I've been taken advantage of, uncovered an EA of some sort, and much much more.
I don't need revenge, but if my options are to go to court and defend myself against horrible grounds that are not anywhere close to truth, or sign a dissolution, I'll sign. I'd rather end our marriage with some dignity.
