Blowing in the wind....

[RosaLinda]

Thank you all for checking in wonka, Portia, Bright, DMR, Magic, Nero, Sailing, and uR, it amazes me and touches my heart what good and faithful friends you are. Thank you all for your support and good advice.

Boy Nero, you and your mom just can't catch a break. But yes, that is right, it takes 3 to 4 hours to transfuse a unit of blood, it can't be done too fast in an elderly person. I don't understand why you were not informed about the transfusion as it needs special signed consent, and your mom sure is not in any mental state to either consent or refuse. Will she be discharged today? I'm sorry your mom takes it all out on your. Sort of MLCish of her. Or maybe it's more like our MLCers act like elderly demented ladies

DMR, that's a pretty ironic comment your friend made about being cheaper to get a new wife than move; that is exactly what happened to you. Thanks for your good wishes for my surgery! Wonka maybe I'll ask H to bring me back some vodka I hear it's a dietary staple over there! I bet the apartments are roach-infested! He says he'll be on the 15th floor.

Thanks for your advice Bright, I think you are exactly right, H is justifying his trip and presenting it to his family as just going over there to meet a friend. We know better LOL, and so does his mom and our sons.

Oh Wonka and uR, I can see the logic in not telling him to have a great time, but can't I even ask him to let me know that he has arrived safely? Well I guess he should know I'll be worried, and he should notify me all on his own, plus he should be asking me how my surgery goes. Okay, I'll stick to the hug and stay safe. But it's not me.

I plan to wait until I get back from England for my next DB coach session with Chuck. That way we can review what my next move should be when H returns, according to whether H bothered to contact me or not, and whether he sent me a message (flowers? nah!) for our anniversary, which is Sept. 20th. I'm really trying to hold it together here, and think I am doing okay letting him go with love but detaching is still so so hard.

H's travel plans are progressing but have hit several snags:
He was really angry yesterday to "learn" that HIS mom is driving me to the hospital for my surgery and is staying overnight with me. I put the word learn in quotes because we all discussed this at length when she was over for dinner last Friday. Poor H is really in a sort of mental fog a lot of the time, and apparently does not remember this conversation. He thought it was really nice last week, and said he would take the train to the plane. I don't know what he was so angry about, as he never asked her if she could drive him to the airport. He sent me a barrage of nasty text messages while I was at the eye surgeon yesterday, and I stupidly forgot the hallmarks of validating and letting him work this out on his own, and made some suggestions about how he could get to the airport. His answer "Don't be a child, I'll take the train" Um, okay!

The Russian has found him another potential apartment, on the 15th floor of an apartment house way south of Moscow. The one in Moscow near where she works and lives would cost him $1,100, but he could have this one for just paying the utilities. So he is leaning towards the free one. The glitch is that it is 2 hours away from RT by bus or train, and she has to work He told me that she has her own apartment and won't be staying with him. Maybe that's HIS plan but I doubt if it is hers. But it won't be too pleasant for her to have to make a 2 hour train trip twice a day, although it might be worth it to get a green card hahahaha!

The third glitch is that he is very afraid that Putin will close the borders over Syria. He nearly flipped out yesterday when we heard on the news that Russia sent 3 warships to match the 4 we already had there, and that Pres Obama was sending a 5th He says if the borders are closed he will have to return early, or maybe won't even be permitted to go to Russia in the first place. I think this would be very bad, he would always think "what if...." and will never get over his infatuation with Russia and the Russian. Damn politics.

Besides a couple of cranky moments, and the nasty text blitz, H has been acting loving and friendly. If not for never touching me, we would seem like a normal married couple. He is SO sick though, suffering from debilitating overwhelming headaches and fatigue. He is in bed by 6:30pm most nights, and sleeps until 7 or 8 in the morning.