I'm surprised at how hard it is to be nice to h. Why is it that when we get married it seems we come up with all kinds of horrible ways to talk and behave....like cause the person is married to us we can do whatever? I mean I wouldn't treat my mom the way I sometimes treat my h....like he has no feelings at all! I'm not saying my h is totally right nor am I totally wrong but just playing nice when you are both hurting does a lot for the r.
It's so hard to be nice though cause I'm so hurt. But you are right it's working so I'll keep doing it.
I pray to God for strength to keep being nice...every evening, every morning. Cause it does require divine assistance to be nice in the face of your s who seems not to care.
