I guess I am afraid of raising conflict and putting my wife, daughter and I in a position that we end up in a battle. That's scary, but it is a battle I would fight to keep myself from being taken advantage of. After this is all over, I need to consider MY future, and the future I can have with my daughter. I am not just going to roll over because W feels she needs X amount of dollars, based on nothing, so she can buy a new house and move on with no financial worries. In a perfect world that would be great. In our world, that is not reality.
I didn't intend on my comment being a cheap shot towards 25. I apologize if it came off that way. I simply meant that I knew that 25 felt that wife worked and put money into our home, and therefore she deserved something in return. I appreciate the perspective, and I was simply saying "25 votes for, YES , she deserves a settlement".
I feel otherwise, and I was wondering what others felt. Am I being unreasonable?????? I am honestly asking for opinions. Perhaps I am selling my side of the story too much, I guess. I just wanted some input to whether everyone feels that I am being fair or unfair. I can't sell the house. I WILL have it appraised. However, wife has said it many times, she feels she deserves more than a pat on the back to walk away. I get that, but if there is no equity in the house, which I have tried to prove to her with the market value assessment from 2 real estate agents, SHOULD I feel obligated to hand her money? That is the part I am struggling with. I guess it is more of a moral question than a mathematical one. Does wife deserve money to leave, even though there is no mutual asset to pull this money from?
The other thing I was asking for suggestions about is, how is the best way to approach her in regards to coming to an agreement. Wife and I are on totally different pages. How do I bridge that uncommon ground without causing conflict?
I honestly and truly do wish to approach this fairly, and without emotion driving anything. I am not trying to manipulate or control the financial figures or the situation. I am only wishing to do what is right and what is fair, for wife and for me.
