Its amazing whats NOT left behind when a walk away walks away......
I had to buy a backpack (AWESOME INVESTMENT) a few weeks back- she took it, and I had to by a camera on Sat. Both items i assumed were still in my house. Im no longer ripping my house apart to look for things. I didnt lose them ......My chicken ship wife just decided to take them and not tell me.
I dont solely own the communications problem folks
Spending time with her cousins seems to be soul food for D3's soul. As usual she was timid but dug right into their toys and jumped right on their swingset, but she doesnt like boy movies.
Oh, and moving forward I shall now use D3.5
Yesterday she went to her cousins bday party which was held at a gymnastics training center. She began the day being scared and overwhelmed playing with a whale slide designed for a 1YO. D3.5 then progressed to the bounce house and then hung on some trapeze bars.........an hour later she BLOOMED, she jumped on the trampoline and jumped off into a pit of foam blocks. Then giggled for about 5 minutes.
The other parents just watched me and shook their heads. I am a "TigerDad". I am one of those guys......Im following 5 feet behind D3.5 at all times with my new camera trying to get the perfect shots. I was like paparazzi.
So D3.5 is hopping along on the trampoline and Im looking back through some pictures. All the pictures are of D3.5 with a HUGE smile. "Girls just want to have fun" starts rocking through the loudspeakers..........I just start crying- in front of all the other dads who already think im crazy. They are just standing in the corner,arms crossed, ripping the Patriots game. I lost my "Man card" at that moment
When you are practicing Grade A, hardcore, GAL you dont give a flying F what anyone in the court of public opinion thinks. Women dont think im attractive- oh well! W thinks im overly sensitive- yup, [censored], so what. Im not willing to do a 180 on that:)
HELL YEA! (it kind of feels good to say that so openly)
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Next wed is my bday. I wrote the above line in my journal tonight........... That's when it hit
I've lost 70 lbs I've completed my prof cert I have a unbelievable relationship with my daughter I've never been healthier in my life I haven't had a sip of alcohol since aug 2 - before that jan 7 I may be down to a 32 x32 pant and med shirt I've never been stronger mentally or physically I've improved my credit score over 150 points I'm developing a tighter relationship with my siblings I've been compiling a personal journal for almost half a year
That's an awesome year
But oh yes, my wife is having intercourse with multiple men and has left me
Has the 37 th year of my life really sucked?
I scratched the line out of my journal.........
On a personal note to the friends I've made here. I can't thank you enough! It is you that have given me the guidance and direction that got me to this place. My success ,however small, came from reading about your success and areas of opportunity in your own threads. It's been 6.5 months here and I have so far yet to go but right now, at this moment , I feel like I will be alright.......
THANK YOU....
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Wow, happy bday! Your year sounds amazing, your W's not so good. What great things you can accomplish by taking small steps at a time and then looking back a whole year later. Your achievements inspire me to keep on truckin'.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
Wow, PS, in list form you've had quite a year!! Good for you! Glad I could share a day with you in your life/ GALs!!!
You are an amazing guy/daddy and your W is crazy! The good news is that 38 WILL be better NO MATTER WHAT.
We can never turn back time or take back what we've said or done, or change what our S's have said or done. But, we can and should move forward and LIVE LIFE TO ITS FULLEST! Every day is a gift and it is a shame to waste it with negative emotions and thoughts.
I am so proud of where you've arrived in your journey!
I, too , am peeved at your W for taking your backpack!!!!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
I'm smiling for you!!! I've needed a little bit of your fire lately. Thanks buddy! You inspire me.
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
I wrote that entry because I am embarrassed at being separated from my W. I cant imagine what I will feel when someone I know sees my W with another man.
So Im writing in my journal and im looking back at the year and I just wrote off an off an entire year of my life because almost all of my focus is to bring my family back together again........
It was then I realized that if I put the different facets of my life into a spreadsheet, like a business breaks its departments out, that the year has not been a failure.
Our spouses are deep in the fog and we cant waste entire years of our lives waiting for something we have almost no influence on, to happen.
The day to day hurts but we need to keep forward in some speed.There will be tears and sleepless nights and pitty parties and esteem issues-hopefully no more hyperventilating- but all that fueled the positives.
Finish this sentence; I would rather have the bomb drop on me then____________________
The list is DAMN long
And I bought the same exact backpack Many more journeys ahead
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Hey! Turtle and I were invested in that backpack too...glad you got another one!
I don't know why you would feel embarrassed at someone seeing wife with someone else...could you explain? It is not your failure. Look at yourself and your list of accomplishments.
You are rocking your life in a way that would not have been possible a year ago.
What a wicket gratitude list! Something you can look back on and see how far you came. Good stuff, I need to do that now.
You are very inspirational and how you make people on this forum feel better about themselves and there situations should be another point to place in your journal.
"Finish this sentence; I would rather have the bomb drop on me then____________________ "Living the rest of my life without recognizing my faults which were oblivious to me before the BD.
H 37 WAW 32 S 4 (Autistic) S 2 Together 11 years Married 6 Bombshell Dec 1 2012 House sold, flying solo June 1 2013.
