WR, Take a huge breath! Your h has nothing better to do but sit around and plot out ways to get money and yes, discounts. It's all about him and he doesn't care if who he uses to get what he wants. Your son will need to advise his father that his "discount" privilege is for him.
I'm glad you got the home appraised and are finishing up the financials. Yes, it's frustrating when they have their lawyers come back and question what we have done w/tax returns, etc. They do carry a lot of paranoia around and think that we are out to get them. They tend to forget that they are projecting on to us what they are doing all of the time...sticking it to us.
Stay as calm as possible and do what you can to get those financials done. You are doing great and it does take time to gather up all of the information. I'm glad you referred the Visa rep to him and gave them his cell phone #. Time for him to man up and take responsibility for his bills.
I do hope that you and your sons can have a good weekend. Find something that you and your family can do together and enjoy.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
