tetracycline and topical RetinA ? Accutane is nasty. D14 on clindamycin topical, but if your D has cystic you might want a second opinion. YOu have a dermatologist?
NLW, your H is beyond words and I find you so amazing..Thank you.
Just an update, as I 'm finding it hard to keep detached.
XH is 3 weeks into a grand holiday sailing from Venice down the Adriatic coast in a private yacht, with OW, of course.
He has been in Montenegro for over a week now. I know, because I have to keep checking the bank account for evidence of his spending power to report to child support agency. And boy, is he spending...
But it's a bit like looking at FB... just makes me feel bad to see him living the high life while we struggle back at home.
The kids are doing badly with this. He left without telling them that he was going, and has not contacted them at all for 3 weeks now.
This stopping of contact just came out of the blue.
He'd call them at least every 2 days before this.
They are struggling. And I don't know what to say to them.
Working on being like Beatrice: Bored by the antics.
It's getting easier to do.
XH arrived back yesterday after nearly a month holidaying on a yacht in the Adriatic. Before he left Europe, he and OW went back to Venice for another few days. He spent another $100 in the same Venetian intimate lingerie shop that he visited on his arrival. In total, multiple thousands spent on food, alcohol, gifts and accommodation.
The phone calls to the kids started last night. D17 answered her mobile the first time.
XH: "What have you been up to?" D17: "Nothing, how about you?" XH: "I've been working.... and doing some sailing" D17: "Where?" XH: ".... er, why does it matter?" D17: "I just wanted to know where you've been" XH: "Why so many questions" D17: "Why won't you tell me?" XH: ".......Do you need anything at the moment" D17: "Yeah, some money" XH: "Give me your bank details and I'll put some money in your account" D17: "No thanks, I'd like it in my hand please" XH: "I'll pick you up from school tomorrow and give it to you" D17: "I'm busy after school tomorrow. Why don't you come here and give it to me?" XH: "Tell me your bank details and I'll put it in there" D17: "No, just come over and see me and give me some money. I need to buy some clothes and some acne creme" XH: "No. ...Tell you what, you come and see me if you want to get your money" XH hangs up.
S14 received a call on his mobile immediately after, but opted not to answer.
Then, after about 30 mins, the home phone started ringing. We were having a very late dinner as I'd been late home from running the kids around after school. The kids just sat at the table eating as the phone rang on and on. I asked them if they were going to answer, but they said: "We're eating dinner right now". It rang and rang until it rang out.
Then, D17's phone started up again. It was him. She let it ring.
Remarkable really. After almost a month of not bothering to contact the children because he was off on the holiday of a lifetime - and after not even telling them he was leaving the country - as soon as he sets foot back home, he is demanding to see them.
It's just weird how blinkered mlc makes these people.
S14 left for a bush-hiking camp today. He can't take his phone. He'll return in a week.
I answered the door and D17 came into the hall and he handed her an envelope, saying that he'd give her more of her money back as soon as he had it (he took the kids' money from their bank accounts several years ago when in a 'cash flow crisis'). The envelope contained $1,000.
He would not stay, saying he had to work.
Luckily, the house was in darkness so I couldn't really see his face at all. I was sitting watching TV and had all the lights switched off to save on electricity (pathetic but that's what I'm reduced to these days).
Much the best option. He was more like an apparition.
My exP seems very keen to discuss our house sale - I think it translates into "i'm not paying the bills any longer" time will tell. I wonder if he'll tell me about the wedding or come up with some other BS for his decisions.
it is bad enough dealing with the emotional turmoil, but however much we may wish it were different money makes the world go round. without it, you are stumped.
I am amazed at how well you seem to be handling your self in this situation
