BC39.....The fight for my marriage continues

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I guess it depends how you view marriage. If you view it as a life long commitment then you dont bail on it. If you understand that marriage has its positives and its negatives you learn to evaluate it differently. If you understand that life has its UPS and downs, you dont quit during a down period, because you know an up period is coming up soon.

And that is why most unhappy couples are happy again within five years.

It is the selfish and immature belief system that leads to a sense of entitlement and the mentality that if im not happy I can just leave...

People who go through life like that will never be happy.

I was a foreign student 14 years ago when I met my wife. I always told her that as an outsider, I believe that the reason so many Americans are unhappy (high suicide rate, high prescription drug use, etc) is due to 'the pursuit if happiness'.

It is the very idea that is the foundation of American culture that leads peopke to behave in ways that will not bring them happiness. Excess material consumption, disposable marriages, etc are the byproduct of constantly seeking momentary happiness.

This is not what happiness is. Happiness is being contempt with what you have, with being ok with the hand you were dealt and learning to make the most of your life.

If your spouse tries hard and you can see how much they love you, do they have to 'meet your needs',100 percent? Is love and respect and compassion not enough? Not in American culture its not. Hence the general level of unhapiness...