Labug and starsky,.no I dont believe anyone would want to stay married to someone who doesnt want to be married to them.
I think what all lbs do is to try to hold on to the desire to reconcille for as long as they can. For obvious reasons such as divorced life sux in many ways, shared custody of kids, effect it has on kids (history repeating itself like my wife repeating what her mom did), wanting to fix what you messed up, avoiding the feeling that you failed etc etc there are as,many reasons to hold on as long as possible as there are WAS's.
Plus I believe when you love someone, you give them the chance to correct their mistakes.
The saddest stories are when the WAS realizes what they have done but the lbs has moved in and found someone else. Exchange of the kids or any other contact can be awkward and a harsh wake up call of the reality of the situation.
Just my opinion. I think im not alone in thinking divorce is best avoided, if possible.
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
