Me- LBS or WAS?

[littleGTO]

LOL, Tori! I laugh because honestly my H is hot! Nothing "chunky" about him at all!

AS- When H comes to house after school to see boys I am not here. In fact I have barely seen H all week. Works for me. Works for boys, and H gets to see them too. Maybe it is cake-eating, but it works for now.

labug- H has mentioned the over-involvement in activities for 2 years now...just about the beginning of his MLC. But, yes, he and I have always disagreed about the number of activities the boys are in. So, that has caused some resentment on his part (as we allowed them to get involved to my liking,not his).

But, everyone we know has the same kind of lifestyle--not to say that it is right or wrong. It just IS. That's part of the reason the "we" of our marriage got lost. Married was always secondary to family.

PS- I do worry about what you said that now that OW has "dumped H" and has lived in this fantasyland with her for quite a long time that how will anyone (including me) ever live up to that? Not that I think I need to live up to anything in his eyes anymore.

He IS in meltdown mode- very dark depression. Not sure how long it will take him to come out of it, but if he allows her to remain in his life even as a "friend" at work, I fear he will not surface to reality again. And, that is very scary. I will not be around to see him spiral again and again, at least not as his wife.