Hi Hurt, vent away we've all been in the same position at some stage. You need to concentrate on yourself and look after yourself and your health.
You know that you shouldn't have been snooping, but it's too tempting isn't it? If you hadn't been snooping, then you wouldn't have known about this OM. I had this problem with H a couple of weeks ago and although it was all innocent on his part I had to delete him off FB to stop myself from snooping. I've not been to look at his page since smile I just want to let him get on with it now and get it out of his system.
That's all they need to do is get it out of their system. The "affairs" are just them thinking that the grass is greener on the other side. They will know eventually that this isn't the case!
Take care of yourself and speak soon smile

H47 me48
T22 M21
S20 - Got high functioning autism
3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her
11/2000 H moves back home
2/4/13 H moves out
H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!