I also look in the mirror and think, you handsome ba5tard you! wink
That's the spirit! And maybe it's just me, but I thought what you said about OM being a 5 with a sack over his head was funny. You really do have a sense of humor.
My advice about any friends or relatives connected to your W is to stay away from it. Whatever might be said between the two of you, may come back to bite you in the behind. I get request every day from someone who wants to be FB friends. I just ignore it. Funny, but if it's made any of them mad, I haven't known and it didn't affect my life.
Some may see this idea of not befriending this guy as her having control in your decisions, but IMHO, you need to block out that rift-raft and protect yourself. I just see no good coming from it. Maybe she did or didn't put him up to it, but you have to heal from the mess she's caused. He may be like a box of salt pouring in the wound.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Feels like Deja vu, I'm gonna go down there tomorrow to hopefully pick up the kids. I feel that if I ask if I'm still having them or where I'm picking them up it gives her the power to say no or whatever else.
If I happen meet OM or he is there how should I be in regards to him? Ignore him? Acknowledge he is there but with an under current that he is dating my W? Or is he just some other person?
W mentioned in her spew that OM treats her with respect and is nice to her. So pretty much like every guy that gets a new girlfriend then.
Before I told my brother to not show me or tell me anymore he showed me a picture quote W had put on her facebook just after the spew.
Quote:
"A man who treats his woman like a princess is a proof that he has been born and raised in the arms of a queen"
The grammar isn't up to much.
I actually laughed when I saw it. Quite clever because in a way it could be insulting to me and my mother and a compliment to OM and his mother at the same time.
If he can be everything she wants him to be and not become completely walked over and lose his own identity then he will be doing well.
Hard to imagine W getting on long term with any man and his mother who are even slightly close.
I didn't struggle to sleep last night. Woke up this morning and felt fine. These recents events aren't really bothering me. I actually feel a little bit sorry for her as if she's lost her way. Only time will tell.
I think if I had played it differently in early August we would together but not in a healed way. She isn't/wasn't ready that's very obvious now. I was too eager or blind to see it.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
T1000 - my XW went from me to a guy who looked like a child molester (this is literally how he was described to me by multiple people). I think the most accurate thing that has been said is that the WAS really steps down because there is almost zero likelihood of OM/OW making them feel bad. Of course the OM/OW thinks it's awesome that they got someone so high above their pay grade, and they go crazy with compliments and love and pithy statements, which then cycles back to the WAS feeling so good about themselves. Point is, almost ALL affairs are totally about WAS's ego (I can get anyone I want), or self-esteem (This pasty ugly guy says nice things about me).
Just show up? I don't think that's a good plan. You are already worry about how to act if OM is there. Why not tale advantage of a little free time and GAL?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Just show up? I don't think that's a good plan. You are already worry about how to act if OM is there. Why not tale advantage of a little free time and GAL?
S3s party/cake etc. on Saturday. Any other Friday and I would be OK.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
I've turned up every Friday afternoon for over a year now without discussion about it.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
I don't know how to tell you to act, b/c you should not have to be in that position. If your W is so low classed as to have her boyfriend at her child's birthday party.....knowing her H will be there, then that should tell you more than plenty of what kind of lady (not) she is.
I'm sorry, but if I were a man in your shoes and saw OM there, I would have to leave and celebrate my child's birthday when I could take him with me. I think it would make you look like she was making a fool out of you if she had OM there. I am afraid she would enjoy it too much.
It's her house, so it's not like you can throw him out. Don't give them the satisfaction of doing that to you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
That's the spirit! And maybe it's just me, but I thought what you said about OM being a 5 with a sack over his head was funny. You really do have a sense of humor.
