let's start at the end, shall we?

[KindaHappy1]

The kids are a special weak point for me as well, but if they're not in any danger, then I would leave it alone. Just make your time with them fantastic quality time. This will draw them closer to you and vice versa, and W will just have to stew in her unhappiness.

Thanks! After rereading my post I can see that I was mad thinking she was with OM and I projected that on the sitch with the boys being home alone, which W and I would always leave them on their own when we went out the past couple years.

I need to try to detach more, and I need to try to stay cool calm and collected.

And yes, I need to have fantastic quality time with my boys, for myself and them. I know this will help me feel better.