Here is my tentative plan: to hug him good bye AS IF I am his wife whom he loves. And then let him go with love and go get my eyes fixed. And although I'll want to know if he landed safely and to let him know how my surgery went, I plan to avoid all contact with him unless he contacts me first. Thoughts?
I think your plan is fine. You're his W, so say goodbye, hug him and let him do what he'll do. (which he'll do anyway). I would also ask him to let me know he landed safely. Otherwise, whether to contact you is in his court.
