Ruby "I am glad you see movement. So do I but am not confusing it with his growth. As Breakdown has said it's circular but its not my journey is it now?
I also have to say that I can't say if he is truly in love. I'm not him. Do they have the history and connection? No. But she may give things I can't or don't. Who am I to say??"
Infatuation and real love are two totally different things! Love takes work, committment, a certain mind set. None of our MLCers are there yet with us, but will again, and in the meantime they have these OW giving them the adoration and attention they crave without having to do any work. Except for your H, he and MG are over. Maybe that's why he's still mooning over her - because she did the dumping.
But I CAN see your H moving towards you Ruby. I don't know if it's growth or not either, but know that it is positive!
Ruby I wanted to share what SE2 sent ....He told me I was beautiful, kind and evolved. For the first time in my life I could accept this because I feel my insides and outsides match. That the person I was with SE2 was not a construct. It was authentically me. Okay, so he didn't get ALL my crazy, but i wasn't pretending either.
Those of you who know me on the alt or RL know I am not "beautiful". I am not unfortunate, but Victoria's Secret has yet to come knocking. But when SE2 said that, all I could think was "Yeah, I am."
What a nice guy. Hope he doesn't ever turn into a MLC zombie. I feel like I know you pretty well from here AND have seen you on the alt and think that you are beautiful inside and out - quite adorable plus sincere, loving, kind, honest and deep thinking. A diamond prize! Don't forget that!
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17