With anger I don't scream or yell a lot but I break things or hit walls when I'm pissed.
That is some scary stuff. I bet your W is afraid of you if this has been going on a while.
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When I found out about her EA I kicked her out of the house and ripped up a few of her paintings.
Again, that is scary, abusive behavior.
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I've never hit her though
Abused women often state that mental/ emotional abuse is much worse than physical abuse.
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I have also sworn at her a few times during arguments, usually when I get scared and panic. A week ago when she demanded I return her car keys I shouted "F you B" and hung up the phone on her. It felt good in the moment, but anger always hurts you in the end.
Anger hurts "you"... well that's true but have you considered what this has done to your wife? You might regret what you did for a day or two, but your W carries the scars forever, and abuse has a cumulative effect, so for her each event stacks more hurt on top of the previous damage. Have you ever been to counseling for this? What you describe above sure sounds like abusive behavior, and that needs to be addressed but it's outside the scope of these forums.
