To respond I spent the first six months or so just being. I did not begin many new things. I maintained what I had been doing for GAL and attempted to socialize a little more. For the most part I attempted to maintain the status quo and determine what to do next.
After about 7 months I began trying to expand a little. Life intruded into that effort. It was at about this time the SILs began distancing themselves and familial responsibilities ramped up. Life has a way of adjusting our best laid plans. Life and our interactions as part of life are dynamic. None the less I was able to cross a couple of things off my bucket and personal improvement lists.
Establish your destination, set your course and adjust for variations in wind, current and tide.
This is pretty close to what I'm doing. I am trying to maintain for a period until my emotions run their course. I don't want to wake up in a year and say "oh crap I bought what?" or "I did that?" At the end of the day I want to be able to hold my head up not hang it down. That means staying true to my core values. I may have drifted before BD some but now... I'm trying to right that ship (just a bit of a turning radius).
Thanks JS for the advice
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
