Here is my tentative plan: to hug him good bye AS IF I am his wife whom he loves. And then let him go with love and go get my eyes fixed. And although I'll want to know if he landed safely and to let him know how my surgery went, I plan to avoid all contact with him unless he contacts me first. Thoughts? _________________________
i think the plan sounds good. i think if you really worry and want to know he's arrived safely (and it went ok - health issues, etc.) - just say so. doesn't have to be goopy or demanding- i'd just throw in a little "let me know you arrive safely - or how flight went" - can tack on- "i'll worry til i know " you knowme...
how the heck could he fault ya for caring?...
he does know you- i'd think he'd probably call on his own. it would be interesting to see if he does of his own volition.
YOU COULD TEST HIM- see if he lets you know on his own(that would be very nice to know) and if he doesn't- just leave a text or call and quickly ask/check. who would fault ya for that??
just my two cents - ignore if it's gooney - i'm very very bad at "wondering"... it's a big flight/deal...
i'm a total failure myself on this stuff - i know it. i hate him for telling me - i hate him for not wanting to talk with me. he's "afraid" of a fight - but doesn't want to hear my voice enough to man up-
it's jerky. i always thougfht/think still maybe that if youlove someone- and you NEEEEED to hear their voice- you will become allllll fortified and brave and just do it.
maybe i only know women- or myself. maybe men never do- any idea??? can they break the silence if their heart demands it?
you're doing great. as usual- i hope all goes well- you've got a crazy life at moment...
he knows big things going on in your life too- wonder if he'll call & check on your "things". best of luck - truly - with this. i find myself (pollyanna thanks) hoping like mad this is an "eye opener" for hm-
see- saying that- then i wonder if you should be a total stone wall- or if you should be old love self- i struggle with this alllllll the time. usually land on the square of "be yourself" - whether it rises or falls on it- we have to be who we are.
my lack of "image" and "strategy" may cost me alot- ?????
didja ever see yourself(myself) having to wonder over such little/huge things - ????? ever...
