New to This - An English Man In Trouble

[Hadlee58]

Well our anniversary passed off without any problems, we had a nice evening with a couple of drinks and i made a nice dinner, it was good to chat and get things back on an even keel for now. I have been keen to promote W getting some time for herself and to catch up on some sleep and rest something i think i let slip over the last week, not listening to her issues fully and supporting. Its difficult because i think its a fine line between controlling and offering help - "why dont you get an early night?" can be seen to be controlling in her eyes and me being mr helpful in mine.
I really worry how long i can wait for my W to get in the position to work on us which i guess is normal... There are days like today when i feel pretty low and think i should set some boundaries for my own future. I am in the difficult position that my wife thinks things will just get better in time and doesnt want to discuss in any way and she closes down the shutters whenever i try to instigate discussions on moving baby steps forward. A fatal mistake but i looked through old email/texts this morning and we had such a wonderful life something i yearn so much to get back to. I can live without the sex for now but some days i just miss having that someone there. Although we are back in the same bed its like there is an iron curtain between us, we cant even go to bed at the same time, last night we were both tired and i said it was time i went to bed and she said ok i think i will go downstairs and watch some TV for a while (she seems to have put her help book away for the time being). Its as if she cant get into bed at the same time as me, whenever i have gone to bed she has been asleep, whenever i go to bed she stays up until im asleep.
Days like today i wish i had the guts to say - i cant continue like this and need for my own wellbeing to have some commitment from her and that i have my own personal boundaries that wont allow myself to stay unhappy like this and i deserve to be treated better, alas i dont have them guts yet and i am continuing on this merry-go-round for how long i can keep this up i dont know. I hope people dont think i am being gready, reading some stiches on here i know i am in a better place than some but its the 'no plan' that i struggle with.

Sorry for boring you all again - thanks H