I think you are absolutely right. Which is why I kind of gave up trying to impress her about 3 months ago. And I get the sense im moving up the ladder quicker now!

oh what a complicated thing attraction is!

Im just working in being happy with myself. Being comfortable in my own skin. Being successful at my business. I am friendly to her of course, but the natural result of the thing that happrns naturally to lbs which is to start giving up (or detaching) is that you become more attractive.

The balance is tricky though. How do yoi not get so confident, so comfortable with yourself, and so optimistic for your future, without closing the door om your marriage. I think that is a fear that we lbs have. We want our marriage and want our family and so dont want to be divorcees, that we are afraid of gaining independence and actually rnjoying it! That seems to be how so many stories end.

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017