Attraction, oxytocin, and limerence

[MrBond]

What you seem to be missing is the fact that these are people whom we have had a long term relationship with and not just someone you just met in a bar. There a many things that contribute to the "non-attraction". A big part is the things we've done to the WAS to make them walk out in the first place. If they don't want to forgive those things that have happened, and don't want to chance getting hurt again, no amount of outside stimuli is going to help.