My wife used to be overweight and I would get controlling with her diet. I saw her as not making an effort here. She eventually lost weight, about the time she started hanging out with her ex-boyfriend last December lol.

With anger I don't scream or yell a lot but I break things or hit walls when I'm pissed. This is kind of rare, but it's something I still shouldn't do. For example a few years ago she kept hounding me about not having my phone on me and being available to answer it. I got mad and said "ok" and threw my phone out the window. I did that with two separate phones, both cheap.

When I found out about her EA I kicked her out of the house and ripped up a few of her paintings. When I found out a few weeks later she had talked to one of these guys again after she said she wouldn't, I threw her phone in the sink and turned on the water.

I've never hit her though, and there was a period of several years where I broke nothing.

I have also sworn at her a few times during arguments, usually when I get scared and panic. A week ago when she demanded I return her car keys I shouted "F you B" and hung up the phone on her. It felt good in the moment, but anger always hurts you in the end.

T 10 years, M 4 years, both 28 years old
7/3/2013 - W wanted D, we attempted to reconcile
7/20/2013 - discovered W's EA, attempted to reconcile
8/24/2013 - W told me she wanted D, filed papers