My IC is really big on verbalizing everything. She thinks I need to tell W that I want to keep moving forward but that I'm happy to let her set the pace
I personally do not agree with that idea. If you tell her you want to move forward in the "friendship", it will push your W away. Don't loose the ground you've gained.
I wouldn't send flowers on the anniversary, that's a little too much. Keep it as friends would. Nothing romantic. No inns or anything attached to a hotel.
Between now and then, just bring it up at a good time and ask her if she wants to do anything together that day. Let her lead by how she responds.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
