Hardened Heart Continues 3

[TryingToDo180]

I agree with Sandi Do not contact her about the D! I think that's the reason why I've not heard anymore about the D from H as I don't mention it at all and I don't bug him by contacting him all the time

[2old]

thanks sandi for commenting. I do have a new resolve to not contact her. But I do feel she will at some point in the near future address this can of worms i opened. Then again, maybe not. I really dont know anymore. Oh and her line about how busy she is , is just that, a line not that it matters, The point here though is she has had the time to just answer me however, its either she doesn't want to or she is waiting for maybe a lawyer appt or maybe she is simply trying to bleed me a little. It's hard to say. I wont revisit this until/if I hear something. I just find it curious why no answer as yet. And you are right if I pushed this I know I would not like the response. I really am picking myself up and PMAing along with some GALing. Might have some good news on the job front coming also.....That would really set me up to get positive!!!

[TryingToDo180]

That sounds good positive news 2old I'll keep my fingers and toes crossed for you Try not to dwell on her email though, you're thinking too much into it again. Try not to worry until it happens. If the Lawyers are anything like they are over here, you won't hear anything for about 8 weeks!
I've asked God to put obstacles in H's way to prevent him from going to the lawyers. So far I think that God has and I thank him for it

[2old]

well, im not trying to dwell on things but like I said I did open this can of worms by asking her intentions. Now I have to wait for what she may or may not have to say. And maybe I deserve 2 x 4's here but I must say that I seem to be the rare sitch where my WAW just hasn't said anything much. She just walked off and so far hasn't said anything much...

[TryingToDo180]

I don't think your sitch is rare. I think that you'll find a lot of people on here are in the same boat as you. My H just packed his stuff up one day and left. He sent me a text later to say that he's left and he's staying with a friend. Now he's got his own flat.
Although I see my H quite often, we never talk about the sitch. I've just heard hearsay off other people which I don't take as gospel as they might've got it wrong.
I feel that you are in a "poor me" frame of mind. You either need to go to the doctors to get some help for your depression or start getting a PMA!
I've worked out (it's only taken me 5 months!) that to help my PMA I need to laugh long and hard at a comedy show or dance around to some music. That's why the festival helped me so much, dancing around to a madness tribute band really helped Going out with friends helps as well, as long as you don't depress them by talking about your sitch all the time
Keeping yourself busy will help stop you thinking about what your W is going to do next. Concentrate on your job prospects and practice interview techniques Keep up with the PMA

[hotwheelsaust]

Good old Madness, there is a typical UK band. 'OUR HOUSE" in the middle of the street. Ha Ha.

[2old]

and it's a very very fine house.....lol

[TryingToDo180]

My son loves that song and they did play that one and all their other classic songs I've started watching the big bang theory as well, everyone was raving about it over here so I decided to give it a go. They're showing repeats of it on TV and so I've started watching those ones It really cheers me up and if I watch them whilst I'm having my breakfast, it sets me up for the day

[2old]

So I am trying to keep a PMA and it is somewhat successful...Still fight off feelings though but it seems to be easing. I think that one thing which is helping me is something I think to be truth with my sitch. The fact W doesn't want to speak is the idea she thinks by not seeing or talking about the issues with me they will just disappear which is not what happens. I'm told this is all to common when someone walks away and shuts down. Maybe this is why DBing has it's effects in some cases on WAS'? Because if the LBS shuts down it is likely the WAS will at some point want/need to initiate contact. This would explain why the lack of contact from her in some ways isnt a bad thing. What I am led to believe now however given this info is that a D is more likely with someone who leaves and shuts down. Regardless of this news, I still have no plans on iniating anymore contact. It would seem pointless anyways...

PMA< PMA< I keep ringing this through my head....lol

[TryingToDo180]

By Jove I think he's got it <- Quote from My Fair Lady! Well done 2old, a positive post for a change Try not to think about your W wanting a D though. My H still hasn't initiated anything else. I think they are less likely to initiate D if you leave them alone.
I do feel with your W she needs to be left alone for a long while. Get on with your own life and take every contact that your W has with you as a positive. I guarantee that if you do this, your W may not initiate D.
I don't know how it works in your country, but even if she does initiate D, you can always refuse.
You're a Christian right? Well if you do get served D papers then tell her that as a Christian you do not believe in D.
Keep up the good work