I'm new, and learning just by reading other's posts. As with yours. My W never moved out, but many similarities as with your sit. My two cents on Anniversary: give it a lot of thought. It IS tricky. I made the mistake of a heartfelt card. What would she want, given your understanding of her present cautiousness? What meaning do flowers have for her? Romance? Is that a message she's ready to recieve? Is there a gesture that acknowledges anno, appreciates friendship, and has just a touch of "future" to it if sees prepared to see it or that she can ignore if she's not ready at no cost to either of you? Something that's subtle and personal. I'd try to think about something that is a real interest/passion of hers. Good luck.
