@MrBond - she is still talking to him, although I've noticed a huge reduction in the contact. It's maybe 2 texts a day, maybe one or two 2-3 minute phone calls. While it's certainly still contact, seems like pretty light contact for a sordid affair. At this point, it would be extremely difficult for her to carry on a PA as she's living with friends, and she has our D10 and S5 fulltime, so any specific "outside" time would be really obvious.
Although, I kinda quit looking a couple of days ago, because I realized I didn't care. I had female friends I was deeply close to that I never would have considered anything not platonic. I received advice from a close friend that said if you don't have proof, then stop wondering. Don't be an idiot and blind, but don't fret and worry yourself sick. If the truth comes out it was an affair, her entire family, friends, church, past friends - everyone will be all over her, and I won't have to say a word!
@NTX - Ohio.
------------------------------------------------ Interesting exchange today: my XW from my first time here in 2009 is now a pretty good friend. Very respectful of me, thinks I'm a great dad, etc. She found out about W's EA or whatever it is, and was disgusted. (Although she started dating before our divorce was final - go figure) She has allowed my two stepkids to come down and visit our kids at her house many times. W has actually confided in XW - probably not a good scenario for me! Anyway, XW said no more of it - she is just fed up with W because I have taken VERY good care of W, and she turns around and does this crap.
Just a bit ago, W texted me and asked if the kids could meet at XW. I told her that XW has decided to "stay out of the middle" and W blew up. I didn't tell W that XW knew about the EA and all that, just was nice. W blamed me, said I always let XW butt into our business, and so on. I said, "I'm sorry you're upset", and said nothing else. W then sent a big long text about how she should have expected this from me, and it was a culture that I cultivated, and I should demand respect, and it was typical, and she's "done".
I responded asking her exactly how she would like me to respond: when an adult that I have no control over makes a decision? I reminded her I have been respecting her feelings, giving her space, honoring her, and in return, I get "this it typical, I'm done".
Anyway, XW said no more of it - she is just fed up with W because I have taken VERY good care of W, and she turns around and does this crap.