One of my H's complaints in the past was that I didn't initiate affection/intimacy enough. So, even while DBing, I've been trying to do that more (he's still at home) and it was going okay. However, a few days ago, he said that he was getting irritated because I'm "trying too hard" and because he feels like I'm making changes so he'll stay, not because I want to make him happy. To me this is the same thing...so any suggestions on what he means by that?
When he said I was trying too hard, I backed off completely and have been giving him lots of space...but now, he's upset because I'm "ignoring" him. I need some suggestions on finding the right balance of detaching. Do I keep my distance for now?
I am so confused and don't want make things worse!
