My H came to visit me at the top of July, I had the entire week planned out for us, I was so excited to see him as we hadn't seen each other in months. With in a hour of his arrival he let me know there is no hope us, he's done.
Did I let that end my plans? No, I asked him to just enjoy the time we had, we went camping, out to eat, I made his favorite meals, movies...etc..etc... He told me this it was the best time we'd had in a while, we were like best friends again. Did that week make him change his mind about leaving me? No, but I had a great time with him, I'll never forget it, and I'm sure he looks back on that time fondly as well.
So I'd say really think about what you want from this day? What kind of memory do you want to look back on for this day, what memory do you want her to walk away with of this day?
The choice is ultimately yours if you return the diamonds and the reasons why you would...
I do think you may want to make some adjustments (like the bedroom stuff) if there are some things you simply aren't comfortable with (such as being with her intimately if shes been w/ OM in that way). If you are open to being with her intimately though, then I'd say play it by ear, no need for decoration.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
