Since reading Divorce Remedy, I have been keeping my distance, not asking about the future anymore, not talking about the relationship unless he brings it up, etc. At first I thought it was working because he called me and said hem missed me and was wondering why I hadn't called him.
Not sure what you mean by "at first" you thought it was working, because everything you describe in your post sounds like it IS working. When you pull back and give your spouse time and space, they will start wondering if you're moving on and they will reach out to you to try to keep you on as plan B. That's what he's doing. But he hasn't changed his mind about the M, at least not yet. So stick with your DB'ing.
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I guess what I am trying to figure out is what to do next.
Keep DB'ing, this is a marathon, not a sprint. You've got to be patient.
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Do I keep my distance and not initiate contact, or since I had success with it in the past, do I initiate?
I wouldn't confuse friendly conversation with "success". It sounds to me like you had more "success" when you quit reaching out to him, that was when he started reaching out to you. But he won't reach out every day or even every week. He'll run hot and cold.
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I feel like we are moving in the opposite direction. Or is he trying to test me by saying those things?
It's very common for the WAS to try and string the LBS along. It is "testing" in a way. Don't sit there and be his plan B. Get out and GAL. Leave him to his journey while you take control of yours.
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FYI: My work ending up hiring me for a promotion and have been traveling quite a bit for training and got a raise and company car.
