Blowing in the wind....

[RosaLinda]

Hi Portia. Yikes, being abandoned by your beloved SO must be doubly hurtful for someone whose LL is QT. I'm sorry your friends gave you a less than sympathetic ear once you told them what was going on with your sitch, especially the ones who had been thru breakups. I found in my own sitch that my divorced friends are the most bitter. But like Betsey said, we made our choice and are happy with it, therefore, we are happy! It's hard that our friends do not try to understand that we are doing this for US as much as for our relationships. Thanks for sharing your Gram's advice: "Piss on them!" Fabulous outlook on life! We all could use a bit of your Gram's feistiness How old is she?

Portia and Wonka, thanks for your positive thoughts about my surgery and trip. Wonka I am fully expecting the Queen to ask me to be the royal baby's God mother, so might need for you to fly out there and help me out with the protocol, picking out a proper hat and everything!

You're right about the distraction Portia, between my H's trip, my trip, my surgery, and the problems I am having trying to function with this double vision, I am not TOO too focused or spinning on any one problem in particular, I've been an equal opportunity spinner And his trip is taking my H's mind off his possible stomach cancer. God is good!

But that said, do any of you have any advice about how to actually say good bye to my H? He will be leaving a week from today, for a month. He has been so friendly and nice lately, really talking to me a lot and doing a lot of things for me to make my stay at home alone for a month easier, like defrosting and stocking up the freezer, and frying up a bunch of chicken cutlets and individually wrapping and freezing them for me, and checking out my car and making little repairs. I've been thru many EA infatuations with him over the past 4 years, and if not for the fact that he is going to be with that Russian Whore while he's there, I would truly believe that his infatuation for her is passing. I have been doing the casual touch every day and I gave him a hug yesterday. He smiles and sometimes flirts a bit, but does not touch back. I know myself, and will want to ask him for a hug good bye if he does not volunteer one. I'm not sure what to do or say.

Here is my tentative plan: to hug him good bye AS IF I am his wife whom he loves. And then let him go with love and go get my eyes fixed. And although I'll want to know if he landed safely and to let him know how my surgery went, I plan to avoid all contact with him unless he contacts me first. Thoughts?