In all of those deep discussion topics, I'm hearing the following items clearly from H:
1) He's trying to 'find' himself 2) His primary LL is clearly QT 3) He sees you as the Rock and wants to hang on to you 4) Feeling somewhat insecure about himself and is now looking to you for reassurance 5) In an indirect way, he is asking for time and patience from you while he picks up the pieces of self and integrating these parts
Originally Posted By: Raine
In the car he said that tonight, the night of the concert he felt more like himself than he has in a very long time, but that it's not himself. It's not his old self, and he can never go back to being that person again. And he said he couldn't articulate what he was trying to say, so I jumped in. I said, "Do you mean there are parts of you old self and new parts that are coming together to form the real self?" And he said yes, that's it
That would have been music to my ears if Ms. Wonka had said the very same exact thing to me. I think this is brilliant, Riane. Hey for the rest of you LBS with MLCer, please take note of this quote and post it in your file for future reference. To me, that would be the most validating statement that acknowledges the confusion I went through and trying to sort myself out.
You're doing great, Raine. Stay patient and be supportive to your H through this part of the journey. I'd like to think that the worst is behind for the pair of you.
