Taking A Stand; What's my Position?

[Mimi00]

What is your dynamic again? I am sorry I am too pathetic to look through to the beginning. Did you cling and text etc. or leave him be?

He sounds lonely, support him but sound a bit more wonderful

Hi Ruby!
I've never been a call/text person in life in general, H has always pursued me (until the last 1.5 years)

- End of April 2013 is when he said maybe we shouldn't be together, that night I cried, showed him pictures, etc... but that was the only time I did these things.

- He flew back to "wonderland" a day later to continue working. I called/texted him a few times in following days just to say hey....it was my birthday week so...

- Same week I sent him an email asking him to not close his heart, allow me to visit him and wonderland (I just recently found out he forwarded that email to his sister and re-titled it "this is not going to be pretty")*I believe that was my last phone/text/email out of "desperate pursuit"*

- May 2013 I discovered DB right after and started LRT b/c I thought that was my only option and I joined the forum, those who gave me advice encouraged the LRT. No calling or texting, hard at first, but then became easy b/c that's really who I naturally am: never the pursuer.
(I did text a few times, but he would responded hours later or even the next day sometimes, so that hurt and helped me to detach more from calling/texting)

- I LRT'd until end of June. He called around that time and asked if I was purposely not calling/texting? I said I was giving him space... he said he never asked for space... I asked if he wanted things to change? He immediately said no, changed the subject, said it was just a question, didn't want to make it a big discussion.

- He finally visited again soon after, he brought up that my not calling/texting was basically beneficial for him to be able to detach even more...I told him that was advice I received, he said why would any one give that type of advice during a time like this (backing away/giving space when a spouse is contemplating divorce)? When he saw me get a bit frustrated from that, he said he was sorry for bringing up the subject and he shouldn't have and stopped talking about it.

- Now, I continue to not call or text much unless it's something important, then I call (So in the last 2 months I've called maybe 3 times all for "business" reasons). I don't text at all really anymore.