Detachment is definitely a process. Or maybe even more so, a "heading", a far and distant island you can set your compass and sails for. But then the wind might not blow hard enough, or the current can take you off course and you have to reset. But there's no quick way there, and I don't think you know when you are "arriving", just when you've actually "arrived". Something will happen and you realize it doesn't bother you. Your boat has grounded on detachment.

Honestly I am not as violent as I seem

Nor am I as crazy as I seem, lol. What's the lyric? This is not how I am...

You do sound like you are getting stronger though. I am so glad for that.

Take care.

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.