Figuring out the old and new life

[reachingHigher]

Hi FY!

Thank you so much for printing this! It's a glimpse into the pain, the confusion.

I wonder how many of our spouses have, or will eventually have, any realization that "this is not him (her), this is all me.... " ?

I did think this was one of the hallmarks of MLC: "it's not you, it's me" comes right after ILYBINILWY. At least that is what I got.

Nevertheless, my H had to go on and complete his journey.

And it is true, in our case, I had some issues to work on, as well. My issues may not have caused MLC, but to have that happy M that H & I are working on now, I had some former issues to work through as well as dealing with the aftermath of MLC...the fears and devastation it caused in me and the whole family.

It isn't us...it's them. But it still needs to be worked through. It's a helluva way to work through something, though, isn't it?