One giant leap forward! - Part 5

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T,

Dating isn't really approved here in DB. What are others thoughts on this?

I would go with my own judgment on this but if you can use my opinion I believe that if I find myself in your shoes in the future I will date. You have to do this for you and not to hurt W, but as I read your posts you find yourself moving towards this POV quickly these days.
Dating doesn’t necessarily include sex!
(Before W I did some online dating and had a blast doing this – it’s easy and since I am not the big dater this was much more comfortable to me. Let me know if I should post a little about this.)

I really need to get all pictures (or most of them) off the walls in the house. Every time I have gone to do it W has come back to a certain degree and I haven't followed through. The stairs is covered with family, wedding, honeymoon pics and I can't stand to see them. I will keep some for the kids. I will get a load of me and the kids printed and stick them in the frames instead.

I have done this and followed it up by getting rid of a lot of things bought by W or me and W together. She is not totally out the house but almost and this makes me feel much better at home.
Get the pictures done and work through the house! Get footprint and handprints from children and so on – make it a home for you and your children. That’s your family right now!
Don’t throw Ws stuff in the bin. Pack it in a bow and put it away – don’t give it to her if she doesn’t ask!

Christmas, I'm worried about this. I know W has paid for most of the trip she planned. All xmas week she will be there with just the kids and maybe her parents or possibly even OM. I know it's 4 months off yet. In the last 4 months W has attempted to come back to me 2-3 times so who knows what is going to happen but the thought of spending Christmas alone or at my parents I find really upsetting to think about.

Close friends? (I believe I will go in that direction since family is either dead or gone!)



I still believe that you should not decide anything regarding W yet – I know you can’t help doing the thinking but leave the deciding for now.

F