Me 10 months on. Positve agenda.

[hotwheelsaust]

TTD180, at this stage it is a transfer back, since I have satisfied the departments three years of country service. My HR office rang the other week, telling me there is very little chance of going back to the city in my same position (PE teacher). So my options are (subject to transfer not coming in):
1. Stay in the country for another year, apply again for transfer next year. Might get same answer, no jobs available.
2. Apply and demonstrate stress leave, due to the lack of sympathy/empathy of the department under the extreme circumstances of my sitch. (Needing to go back to my sons, have them move back in with me and move away from the W.)
3. Simply walk away from a job I do enjoy. Thereby possibly causing extreme hardship in paying off the house, finding a new job and the W would probably feel that is another broken camel's back (ie: hotwheelsaust is losing his mind and mental state).

I do feel annoyed that I have satisfied the departments criteria of country service, but told probably no job available. This same answer could be given to me for the next 10 years. Who knows. I will not transfer to another teacher position as I spent 4 years at Uni to become a PE teacher, not a classroom teacher.

In saying all this, I still have 21 days (3 weeks) before finding out the answer. Therefore I am not stressing or worrying about it. Again this is my new approach. Yes, I can think of the different scenarios and how I will act them out, but am not focusing on the negative.

The positive for not getting the transfer is:
* Staying in the country, where the W is. This may or may not help the M, but certainly won't hurt it.

Yes, life will be better back in the city. I will have my two sons, whether they live with me or not, to be with on a more regular basis. I will have my friends from the motorbike club. I will have my motorbike which allows/gives me a great sense of enjoyment and social activities. I will have my house to live in (subject to solicitor and asset splitting). I will be back in the area I have lived prior to the country, for the last 18 years. I will also have the in-laws, who may not want to visit or see me, but who will probably hear about the new positive me. It will also allow the W to not have me around, which may or may not be beneficial to her missing me.