Me 10 months on. Positve agenda.

[hotwheelsaust]

F, Thanks for the reply to the WHY question. You would love it down under. Always welcome, and if I get the house off the W, plenty of room for you and the daughters (if you wish). If I am back with the W (positives), you will still be most welcome.
TTD180, I am the bad man, a two drinker bad man. If I move back to the city, I also will have no one to answer to. So more positives.

[hotwheelsaust]

F, Thanks for the reply to the WHY question. You would love it down under. Always welcome, and if I get the house off the W, plenty of room for you and the daughters (if you wish). If I am back with the W (positives), you will still be most welcome.
TTD180, I am the bad man, a two drinker bad man. If I move back to the city, I also will have no one to answer to. So more positives.

[hotwheelsaust]

Sorry double post. Computers. hmmph.

[TryingToDo180]

HWA, glad that life will be better for you when you move to the city Is it going to be another teaching job you're going to?

[hotwheelsaust]

TTD180, at this stage it is a transfer back, since I have satisfied the departments three years of country service. My HR office rang the other week, telling me there is very little chance of going back to the city in my same position (PE teacher). So my options are (subject to transfer not coming in):
1. Stay in the country for another year, apply again for transfer next year. Might get same answer, no jobs available.
2. Apply and demonstrate stress leave, due to the lack of sympathy/empathy of the department under the extreme circumstances of my sitch. (Needing to go back to my sons, have them move back in with me and move away from the W.)
3. Simply walk away from a job I do enjoy. Thereby possibly causing extreme hardship in paying off the house, finding a new job and the W would probably feel that is another broken camel's back (ie: hotwheelsaust is losing his mind and mental state).

I do feel annoyed that I have satisfied the departments criteria of country service, but told probably no job available. This same answer could be given to me for the next 10 years. Who knows. I will not transfer to another teacher position as I spent 4 years at Uni to become a PE teacher, not a classroom teacher.

In saying all this, I still have 21 days (3 weeks) before finding out the answer. Therefore I am not stressing or worrying about it. Again this is my new approach. Yes, I can think of the different scenarios and how I will act them out, but am not focusing on the negative.

The positive for not getting the transfer is:
* Staying in the country, where the W is. This may or may not help the M, but certainly won't hurt it.

Yes, life will be better back in the city. I will have my two sons, whether they live with me or not, to be with on a more regular basis. I will have my friends from the motorbike club. I will have my motorbike which allows/gives me a great sense of enjoyment and social activities. I will have my house to live in (subject to solicitor and asset splitting). I will be back in the area I have lived prior to the country, for the last 18 years. I will also have the in-laws, who may not want to visit or see me, but who will probably hear about the new positive me. It will also allow the W to not have me around, which may or may not be beneficial to her missing me.

[Fartiltre]

I don't know the system in your part of the world but can you suggest to HR that if you don't get this transfer you fear that you will be hit by stress and thereby possibly have to take stress leave?
Will this cost them money, time or other?

It is a dangerous area, I know! I believe you should look into all possibilities towards getting a transfer. This is about you and your life so prioritize this way.

F

[TryingToDo180]

I agree with F here Is it possible that you can look for a PE job yourself without having to involve HR? You may be able to get a teaching job in a private sector or at a local leisure centre. Just a thought

[hotwheelsaust]

F, yes the option of taking stress leave could happen. Again I need to be careful as they could ignore it as a workplace caused issue (no transfer) and all it would do to me is cost money and my own loss of sick pay.
TTD180, looking or taking up a PE position in the private field again would cost me money (long service leave, sick leave, transfer costs). I have over 50 days sick leave available, I am up to 8 yeas of service (long service is 10 years) and it will cost well over $5000 to transfer all belongings back to the city.

I have to look at all these options very carefully and way them up. My first option (if transfer doesn't come through) will be to contact HR and the Union to discuss the compassionate/mental issue of no transfer.
I might simply have no need to worry about how to deal with this as I might simply be given a transfer. That is why I am not focusing on any negative of the transfer. Just letting it run it's course.

[GALbaby]

Have heard getting teaching positions in Qld cities is very hard at present as are many other essential professional jobs. My D is finishing a nursing degree this year and is frantically applying for the very few graduate positions available. Go CN!(you know who I mean).

Well you are adopting a great attitude to it HWA. The main thing is to keep thinking positive thoughts about it and even if you have to stay in the country there will be lots of positive things that can come out of it. You know my H and I have been struggling with job issues these last months. Well its finally come together in a way that we are really happy and feeling like life is finally getting back to "normal". It really does work to take the high road and keep applying that PMA. Acceptance and living for today just becomes a habit. We all have so so much to be grateful for. Stay well.

[TryingToDo180]

Good post Galbaby HWA, you are sounding so much positive now I'm afraid all this talk about long service is going wayyyyy over my head, lol.
Keep up the good work I'm pleased to hear about your job prospects as well galbaby